There are a few things that you have to understand:
- If she hasn't moved on yet, it doesn't matter. If you are unable to woo her yet, the defect is in your game.
- Thinking from the perspective of the girl is a mistake.
- Look for opportunities rather than thinking how to get her ex out of the game, who is not even present.
How do you woo her?
You've said you're already friends with her. That means you've taken the first step. Stop thinking about how you look, and comparing yourself with her ex - that doesn't matter.
- Start making use of the sympathy clause; ever heard of Rebound thing? If not, you are in it. Whenever a girl has broken up, she subconsciously looks for a substitute for that space in her heart that means she is likely to fall for anyone who gives her a shoulder and provides her with the idea of that perfect love.
- ALWAYS REMEMBER: This is not something new. No one is over their ex-es in a second, technically, every guy/ girl has some corner for their exes for a long period of time. Don't make a big deal out of it.
- because you haven't mentioned anything about her ex, I assume he is over her or is dating someone else. This means that there is actually no problem. It would be a problem if he were still in the scene.
- Stop talking/ discussing about her ex. Talk to her about a thousand of topics. Make her forget, instead make her laugh. Be the fun provider.
- Talk to her/ hang out with her as much as possible. Be the person she'd contact if she has any problem. Gradually, you become the guy in her life.
- Stop being a listener with girls who are depressed. They are themselves depressed that means they are not to be guiding the relationship, it is your job.
- Sooner or later, she is going to find a new girl she'd fall for, don't wait for that to happen. Talk to her and fill her mind with hatred for guys. How do you do that?
Make stories up or you don't even have to do that. If you could just look around, you'd find a thousand jerks you will be perfect examples to your point.
- Notice her reactions. Look if she is being possessive for you or not. The signs are very important. That is the first step to know if she is falling for you or not.
- Try to surprise her a lot. Plan for stuff.
- Don't spend money on her. Don't ever do that. Do it to the limit it is necessary, but you don't have to project the idea that you're a bank no matter how rich or successful you are. Instead, you can use your success to show your managerial skills and how a stable life you live.
- Show her that you do charity and think about mankind. Talk to her about how you cannot take it that people are still hungry when we have our stomachs full!
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