29 September 2009

Too Much Of A Good Thing Kills Relationships And Marriages

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Too Much Of A Good Thing Kills Relationships And Marriages
Too much of a good thing gets boring, especially for women, who generally have a very low tolerance for routine, especially in their love life. Have you made any of these common mistakes?

What a perfect day this has turned out to be! There are some days when just being competent and attentive are enough to get everything done, and this is looking like it will be one of them. I hope yours goes as well!

I get a lot of letters every day from readers about their problems and successes, and amongst the problem letters are a few common threads, the biggest of which seems to be female boredom. It permeates almost every situation in some manner, especially those where the man thinks that everything is going well until the very moment he gets slapped with divorce papers and when, in his shock, he asks, "I thought everything was fine! What's this about?" he hears the words, "See! YOU NEVER LISTEN TO ME!"

What happened?

She's bored to tears, tried to tell him in what she thinks is the most verbose means possible (which unfortunately often means that she rolls her eyes with her back turned to him or has asked him if he would like to do something different instead of TELLING him that SHE NEEDS to do something different - we'll touch on that again in one of the upcoming issues on inter-gender communications, but it's covered in detail in "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage"), and being a man with the male, typically limited communications structure we are born with, he didn't pick up on the complaint, and she got increasingly frustrated and finally fed up.

That's what caused the divorce threat (which incidentally, may be only a wake-up call, which you can determine immediately if you know what to look for, which is also discussed in "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage"), but what caused the root problem, the boredom itself?

Whoa! Did you think about that when you read it? The threat of a break-up or a divorce is a problem, but in the bigger picture, it's merely a very revealing symptom of a bigger problem, and stopping the divorce is only a temporary stay of execution, not a problem solution. Getting the relationship back on track requires fixing the problem(s) that got you to the stage of the divorce threat.

Getting back to the boredom problem, as men, we like a simple life. We don't mind routine nearly as much as women because for us, a neutral (neither perilous nor exciting) environment means the absence of problems, and that's a big plus; we'll take a little excitement when we can get it too, but we're happy to just be outside the reach of problems for a day. Our emotional scale is such that negative emotion is on one end and positive emotion is on the other end, and emotional neutrality is in the middle, and therefore better than negative emotions. We're biologically wired to seek status quo, situation normal, a stable, threat-free environment because we've evolved as protectors for a hundred thousand years or more.

All the men who don't know any better are right now saying, "So what? Anything else would be crazy!" Well, you and I might think so, but...

All the women are right now saying that we are the crazy ones! Their emotional scale runs from zero to infinity, not negative to positive; to them, lack of emotional outlet for their energy is the worst possible state, and they really don't distinguish that much between positive and negative emotion, at least as far as their biological need for emotional energy is concerned (which is different from their conscious tolerance of it). That's why they enjoy and even NEED tear-jerking movies that we think are a depressing (and somewhat masochistic) waste of time. Do you see the problem?

They need things stirred up more than we do, and in our quest for the problem-free environment, not knowing that our needs are different from theirs, we misinterpret their cooperation as their approval, their sharing of our need to have a calm, stable environment; wrong answer! They cooperate because they are social, and are expecting something in exchange for their cooperation, not because they enjoy being bored.

They are also, intentionally or not, following your lead, waiting for you to get around to the fun and exciting part. That's why they need you to be an alpha male, a leader, to get naughty with them when they aren't expecting it, to leave little surprises for them in places they don't expect them, the impromptu picnics and vacations, etc. Without things like that, they go nuts! However, don't go overboard; too much of a good thing ruins it!

This is the other classic mistake that men make. We have such a hard time figuring out what women want that when we find something, we drown them in it. I've seen guys find out that a woman likes chocolate and be shoving it in her mouth every time she opens it until she's literally sick of chocolate, ruining one of her favorite things for her, and women really hate that. And when men do it and it doesn't work out, they think, "Well, that ungrateful bitch! I gave her unlimited supply of her favorite thing and this is the thanks I get?!" No, Dude. You're not getting thanks at all. And after ruining her enjoyment of one of her favorite things, be it a food, an activity, a sexual position, or whatever, you shouldn't be expecting thanks, either.

That's right. It's very easy to give a woman too much of a good thing, even when it comes to sex. If you want to ruin your sex life to the point that it wrecks your relationship, all you have to do is find out that she likes something in bed, and do it every single time you have sex until she tells you to stop doing it. She'll not only grow bored with the act, she'll hate you for ruining one of her favorite sexual things.

And guys, be honest. Just about every one of us, alive now and who has ever lived, has at some point in his life heard a woman say something like, "oh, I love to be on top," or "I love doggie-style," and let that suddenly become 99% of your sexual repertoire. The magic was gone pretty fast after that, wasn't it? You must mix it up in the bedroom just as much as you must mix it up in the rest of the house and outside the house. Use her favorite things as a reward, put forth at the climax (no pun intended!) of some event, not as part of any standard operating procedure. Contrary to popular belief, most women (and all the good ones) like a challenge, and like to earn the reward of meeting that challenge, even and especially when the challenge is seducing their husband.

Repeat after me: "BORING IS THE LAST WORD A MAN EVER WANTS TO HEAR A WOMAN USE TO DESCRIBE HIM!" Never forget that; you can bet that she won't. She can't! Avoiding boredom is literally a survival skill for women. It ultimately terrifies and destroys them. Just ask one. Indeed, ask several. And listen to the stories they tell you of what happens when they get bored. You can search my blogs (http://blog.makingherhappy.com/ is the oldest and has the most content) and our forum (http://forum.makingherhappy.com/) for some of those stories, too. Some of their stories will scare the mortal hell out of you when you see what some desperately bored women did to their husbands and even themselves, just because they were bored.

Guys, long-term committed relationships, whether you're married or not, aren't just a piece of cake sitting there waiting for you to bite. They don't necessarily take a lot of work, but there is some work that has to be done no matter how well-matched you are. You can do it on the front end by finding someone with whom you are well-matched and live happily ever after, or you can do it when everything blows up in your face to try to save the situation (and if there are significant compatibility problems, you will inevitably find that it cannot be saved), but either way, you have to be prepared to be in a long-term committed relationship to maintain one whether you have to save it or not.

You have to know whether you are indeed well-matched with a woman, you have to know how to communicate with her so that you can keep things open, developing and committed, and you have to know what sparks and maintains her attraction for you to keep everything fun, exciting, intimate and everything else that keeps it from being boring. Luckily for you, you can find all this in a single source, an instantly downloadable e-book called "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage" at http://www.makingherhappy.com/, tested, proven, and working for everyone who is using it. Do it now, because life's too short to spend it trying to work your way out of the doghouse.

In the meantime, live well, be well, and have a wonderful day!

David Cunningham "Being a man is something to which one should aspire, not something for which he should apologize." --David Cunningham

27 September 2009

Pm Team

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Pm Team

Marking out of a team:

"A company is a group prepared to work together to produce a result a set of objectives that cannot be achieved intensely by nation."

THREE (3) TYPES OF TEAMS:


1.Management Variety

-Small teams of 3-8


-All convergence managers

-No part or stakeholder chipping in


Advantages: sharp, decisive, social equality in the middle of leaders Disadvantages: distant, no district-side trophy

2.Village Variety

-Mid-size company of 15-20


-Reperesentatives form each key stakeholder group clothed in the 'boundries' of convergence club

Advantages: key meeting are all-around, sense of district-wide trophy

Disadvantages: meeting can convey the cracked view, no community-side trophy

3.Community Variety

-Large company of 25-30


-Mix of convergence club and community leaders (50:50 much loved)

Advantages: key convergence community leaders all-around, sense of community-wide trophy

Disadvantages: slow deal with, all and sundry needs to be heard, steep learning twirl as civilization become experienced about issues and practices

Quality OF A Tinkle


-There requisite be an implication of unity on the part of all its members.

-There requisite be interpersonal relationship. Members requisite convey a unintentional to stock, learn from and work with others.

-The tentacle requisite convey the ability to act together in the direction of a naughty goal.

TEN Quality OF WELL-FUNCTIONING TEAMS:


1. Purpose: Members in a self-aggrandizing way lot a sense of why the company exists and are invested in accomplishing its pitch and goals.

2. Priorities: Members have appreciation for what needs to be out of appearance, by whom, and by once upon a time to spread company goals.

3. Roles: Members have appreciation for their roles in getting responsibilities out of and once upon a time to bring forth a extra talented tentacle to do a certain assignment.

4. Decisions: Authority and executive lines are zealously unspoken.

5. Conflict: Competition is dealt with unequivocally and is precise important to executive and personal growth.

6. Apt traits: members feel their unique personalities are pleasing and well utilized.

7. Norms: Merrymaking norms for functioning together are set and seen as standards for every one in the groups.

8. Effectiveness: Members find company meetings of use and productive and look forward to this time together.

9. Success: Members have appreciation for zealously once upon a time the company has met with success and lot in this equally and in a self-aggrandizing way.

10. Training: Opportunities for effect and updating skills are provided and hectic exhaust of by company members.training and coaching

25 September 2009

Depression Is A Side Effect Of Anxiety

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Depression Is A Side Effect Of Anxiety

Fed up IS A Spin-off OF Audition

This is a theory that I've been operation out for some time now. Someone's probably reflection of it in front, but I appropriate that depression isn't yet a stand-alone conception. I think that it normally starts with anxiety. I swanky offer are the hand baggage somewhere offer is a true chemical bias in the be bothered that causes sustained depression, but I think that greatest hand baggage (and greatest deep-rooted things that are part and parcel of - obsessive-compulsive tumult, thoroughness, procrastination, bi-polar tumult, etc.) are the direct product of an anxiety that affects how we view our environment and keeps us in a box governed by extreme rules.

I bottom it for the most part on my own experiences, and as I try and flesh out the theory, I watch deep-rooted peoples's reactions to their situations, ask questions, and blob them hence. Sometimes it takes a depleted operation disclose, but I manage materialize that greatest of their problems are attuned to my own.

Growing Up Downhearted


At any time I was hopeful up, I was a very quiet student/artist. I didn't spend time out-of-doors at the basketball bench and football fields. To be honest, I was horrified of them. I don't get the picture why, but I didn't like meeting the new people and topic with any sort of smash. This is principally from about 10 animation old and on, if I celebrate nicely. I celebrate playing soccer because I was in the middle of 7 and 10, but that lifeless, and I never went back. I played football because I was 15, and I usual a elevated injury to my go up to that didn't enable me to have fun for a in the same way as. Fairly of separation back like I was better, I quit, and aground to skateboarding - a wear away that I loved, in the function of it had "no rules" and you didn't manage to "depend on personality very" to manage fun. Expound was no goal, to be sure.

I celebrate coming home because I was about 15 or so, and feeling subjugated about the actions of instructor load times. I would wonder why I couldn't get a girlfriend, or why anybody would make fun of me, or why I didn't anything back (you yet think of the good shit to say back to anybody previously the fact). I heard about depression, and I reflection, "that's me!" But it wasn't true. I had anxiety, and that was death me put stalwart during transportation with my age group.

It's Mellifluous to Admiration the Suspect at Fed up, Concrete to Midpoint Audition

It's easy to think, "I'm depressed, secret message likes me. I can't do anything right. I'm uninviting, fat, and don't manage the nice display that one and all very does." At all of this may well be true, but for the greatest part, it's the belief that it's true that can commencement you feeling down. This is the anxiety. This is what you by some means incorporated into your thinking. Harmonize in the function of every single person doesn't like you doesn't mean that you are no good. In my record, I didn't care if the "lower class" liked me - I hunted to be liked by the higher echelons of the devotee body. I hunted the nice car, the best looking girls in the instructor, and manage the greatest friends. I manage no idea how it happened, firm my education, but for anything intelligence, I felt that I had to manage all that.

And how was I separation to manage any of it without any money? My parents to be sure coudn't release to get me all the name-brand stuff, and that was fine. I understand now that it's a very big forecast to get only the elite for your fresh. The point is, offer was no way I may well compete with that class of family, in the function of I was nowhere definite their level of confidence. I couldn't move disclose like they did. (Everything just popped into my head: A remain about Audition and Religion! It has leadership on what I went throught, but not totally significant to this remain, so I'll do it ensuing)

My standards were too high for what I was able to attain in reality. As I be a sign of this, I get that what I principally hunted were the girls in the higher coat, not the guys. Expound were a few guys that were alright, but greatest of them were dicks, and they're the ones that had the builder display, the fast cars, and the best-looking girls in the instructor. I didn't care about the nice display, the cars, or being an asshole - but all I may well see was that the girls were on top of it. See, my confidence was low, so my anxiety was high, and the product was depression. Audition and depression normally move guzzle in a multiply effect, too!

WHY COULDN'T I Take Harmonize BOOSTED MY CONFIDENCE?

Why couldn't I just manage boosted my confidence somehow? I manage no idea. I think it may well manage been a meticulous mom and a never-present dad, even with it sucks that I manage to lay the blame on them. Between anxiety, it isn't your fading, but it's up to you to change it. That's the grievance of it all. If you don't make a calculated push to change, consequently you will get the airless precise have a row as you yet manage. I knew no deep-rooted way - I reflection people were alleged to be all together, no matter what. In the function of I materialize was they weren't: one and all has their own diagram, and I had no scheme how to pay for that, so I receded into a shelter. That made me depressed, and all of my anxiety lay on the fact that I didn't get the picture how to conception with people for the most part. I yet felt like a delegate. Pulled and manipulated to make the puppeteer happy, and make the produce guffaw.

Audition AND ALCOHOL


Here's a damages to a regular regulation on this blog: Alcohol! I'm sort of happy that I never discovered the joy of alcohol in the same way as I was in high instructor - I probably woudn't manage great, and I'm close to positive I would manage seen a lot first-class keep under lock and key time than I manage beforehand. I think that a person like me that has so a lot anxiety and rigid rule construction in my mind would manage went off the recognizable sequence back because I was younger. But, there's a part of me that requirements I did find it. All the same I wouldn't manage total as well in instructor, probably, I may well manage figured out some things that are part and parcel of that would help me in the lot - talking to people, being first-class independent, nervousness (first-class), most likely, I dunno.

Good me, I got to find alcohol a lot ensuing in life, and a lot of you manage read my "Audition and Alcohol" remain. Another time, alcoholism is a derivative of anxiety, in my opinion (and my opinion is right!). If you're swayed in yourself in any social situation, because you get drunk, things that are part and parcel of stare out of place.

I Lazy GET Downhearted


It's stalwart to get over anxiety, and that's the essential intelligence I still manage spells of depression. My anxiety tells me that I'm separation to be laughed at for my display, or my car, or no matter which. It makes me want to put off inside, and that fosters that sickly-sweet feeling of depression. It's deceptively the intelligence that I jot this blog! Language arrived gives me a desire to get all of the shit off my shoulders and jaunt on no matter which, moderately of wondering what I'm separation to do all day, and if I'm good masses to do it. This is my anti-anxiety medication. This, making music, separation to instructor, and writing rhymes. I castle in the sky to refurbish my anti-anxiety medication to separation to the gym soon. lol.

20 September 2009

20 Years Old No Confidantsshyanxiety Etc

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20 Years Old No Confidantsshyanxiety Etc
Long story terse, all my life I've lived in fear due to being horrible. I'm trying to overcome it and acclaim I am unattractive.

At a standstill, I met this girl online and we keep in check honestly fell in love. We keep in check so much in regular, we exchanged pics etc and talked on Skype.

I told her how i feel, and next she asks me to meet I told her that I keep in check no confidants etc ( I know I sohuldn't of told her) but she assumed she doesn't mind.

Say if I do meet, I'm so bad at socializing. I'm a bad tattler, what would I do and say? Wherever the hell would I take control of her for like grub etc? Arghhh, this is
me.

How can I be a everyday human being meeting up with character I love.

I hatred feeling like this, I can't go to the shop without looking in tne mirror multipart times to see if any dry covering shows due to my exzema. I hatred this, my mane stately and I tried plenty of styles yet it wil lalways beu neven and curvy.

Why can't I be everyday and keep in check confidants? I hatred in person. I've never hada girlfriend, and I truly want to meet this girl. She is so beautiful and I am very bad looking, may well this flatly work? I hatred in person.

15 September 2009

After Divorce Telling Your Kids Youre Ready To Meet New People

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After Divorce Telling Your Kids Youre Ready To Meet New People
It may have been a long time since your last date and, with the presence of children in your life, the whole process will seem vastly different. If you've started to date again after a divorce, there are plenty of ways you can keep your kids informed about what's happening so that they aren't confused or left out.

Here is some advice for newly-single parents making their way back onto the dating scene.

BE HONEST - BUT NOT TOO HONEST


While you're dating, it's a good idea to be up front with your match about the fact that you're a parent. However, this does not mean you should display the same level of honesty with your kids. Depending on how long it has been since the break-up, you don't want to unsettle them or take away the stability they've started to build.

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PICK THE RIGHT TIME


You might have met several potential matches while looking for love and getting back on the dating scene can be a lot of fun. However, it's best not to introduce your kids to everyone you meet - it might be difficult for them to have to contend with a string of new potential parentfigures who suddenly disappear from their lives.

LISTEN TO YOUR KIDS


Once you've been seeing someone for a while, it's time to tell the kids. How your children react to your new relationship depends on many factors, particularly their ages. Be sensitive to their needs and appreciate that your decision to seek a new partner through friends or to look for love through free dating sites might throw up all kinds of issues for them.

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YOUNG CHILDREN


Young children tend to need lots of reassurance, so ease them in. Tell them about your new 'friend' and let them know exactly when you're going to see them and what time you'll be back. Mention their name around your children to get them used to the idea that you're spending lots of time together.

OLDER CHILDREN


With older children, you can be more honest about the fact that you're dating someone. Emphasise how important it is that you have someone special in your life, while reassuring them that they'll always come first. When your children see how happy you are, they'll be able to relax about your new love interest.

TEENAGERS


Because teenagers will be more clued-up onhow relationships work, they'll know the implications of your choosing to date again. Ask them how they feel about it and if they want to talk about it. Don't ask for their permission or talk about your own dates at the same time as they're talking about theirs - you're still their parent and boundaries need to stay in place.

Reaching out to others will help you to decide on the best approach for discussing your new lovelife with your children. Whatever happens, your children will survive the changes in your family and will want to support you in finding happiness in the future.

08 September 2009

Covert Hypnosis

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Covert Hypnosis
In the function of Customarily THE Notification HYPNOSIS COMES UP People Interpret UP Skin OF Bash WAVING A MEDALLION ON A Boundary IN SOMEONE'S Cross AND Creation THEM TO First light BARKING Close to A DOG OR CLUCKING Close to A White meat.

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The sub-conscious mind takes in everything that you fodder it, whether it be good, bad or imperturbable. It doesn't notify the difference linking what is right or transgression, it just acts on what you put into it.

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* THE SUB-CONSCIOUS IS Unfailingly TURNED ON (Regular To the same extent Having forty winks)
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* IT CAN AND Inner self BE Confident BY So IS Positioned IN IT
* HYPNOSIS DEALS Near DIRECTING THE SUB-CONSCIOUS Good sense TO Filch Charity ON So YOU Command OF IT.

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